Lol. Shush eet❤

Okay so i think it can't be reiterated enough that we should be kind to everyone cuz we don't know what they are going through indoors. Sometimes ppl who smile the most have the most complicated life but they try to stay strong so you don't have to worry. That's true strength if you ask me.

I remember when I was battling ulcer during my Nysc days which was partly my fault cuz I didn't find joy in eating, I still don't cuz let's be honest  Nigerian food can be so boring and you can't be eating junks all the time cuz it's hazardrous health wise, but now I force myself cuz I learnt my lesson, lol, the hard way. If I might add. Lol.

So, my mum came over to Abj during my ulcer period, only to meet me so skinny. She was so angry at my skinnyness that she got really abusive. I'm sure she didn't mean any harm but I sure felt hurt cuz she will say mean things like, 'you look like you have aids' and all. Meanwhile i faked my smiles most of the time. I tried to be happy outwardly nd did my chores diligently. So they wouldn't figure anything out. I didn't tell her about the ulcer or any of my family members for that matter cuz I didn't want them to worry. I feel everyone already got their own issues they are dealing with so why add to it and raise their bp? Or Maybe it's just because I enjoy taking care of myself by myself and i don't like being babyied or being a burden to people. Especially with the kind of dramatic parents I have. If my mum found out, she would definitely overreact and start forcing me to eat 20 times a day while my dad who loves self medication would probably doctor me to death. He would buy the whole drugs in the universe and expect me to swallow it all. Let's not forget the deliverance my very religious parents will conduct for me everyday, the special early morning prayers and all that, mehn, my spirit, soul and body wasn't ready for all that.

So after I got diagnosed nd got medications at my dad's hospital which was for free, thankfully cuz of Govt. staff privileges and all. I took my medications nd went home. Started taking my drugs and avoiding every and any trigger. I still wasn't adding weight of course because ulcer is punishment walahi. They tell you you "must" "never" be "hungry" but ask you to avoid eating every delicious food known to man, how am I supposed to heal nd get fatter  without eating spicy foods, fried foods, jollof nd fried rice, chips,  chochlates, coke, citrus fruits, junks, e.t.c. Lmao. Jokes. Kuku say I should only eat only sand. Yet my mum didn't understand, she would mock my weight and then I would go into my room, lock my door nd cry myself to sleep every night. Battling both the ulcer pain and the mental injury triggered by my mom.

Anyway, after watching my diet, eating sphag nd rice without stew, yam or bread without fried egg, avoiding ice cream nd red meat,   drinking only yoghurt everyday, drinking plain okro and plantain water secretly, eating cabbage like a goat and finally praying nd fasting to God for 7 days which was very risky, I was healed nd till date she never knew I battled ulcer that was why I lost so much weight.

Anyway, my point is, when you see overweight or skinny people, or couples without children yet, or even ppl with lots of pimples, it could even be belly fat or a bald head,  if you don't have anything else to say, staying mute will be the greatest kindness they will receive from you I assure you. Stop asking triggering questions. Stop body shaming or broke shaming ppl. Some comments aren't necessary tbh. Don't be the reason ppl go into their closet and cry. And if you're going through any battle you're fighting on your own. Stay strong warrior. Tough times don't last forever, I promise. God's gotchya!

Till I come your way again. Stay kind nd Stay strong dear Kings and Queens.  Xoxo. Queen Elizabeth the 3rd❤.