One of my greatest fear is bringing a child to this world without being able to cater to all their needs. I honestly want happy and contented children who can live up to their full potential with many opportunities presented to them.
I didn't struggle to gain admission but when I hear stories of people writing Jamb 10 times only to gain admission and graduate just to start selling Shawarma and running POS business, It breaks my heart. Like yooo, if we spent
the amount of time we spent in school growing our businesses and learning a trade, we for don get millions for our account by now with 10 Branches growing and flourishing.
But no, we had to go to school and become somebody in future only to realize getting A's and strong G.Ps does not determine who you will be in future.
Hey I'm not saying education is bad. In my honest opinion it is overrated if you're not studying a professional course. Nna mehn, that my Sociology wey I study na useless course for this country oğŸ˜ğŸ˜‚. Although, I hear say, na this country sha, it’s not useless everywhere. But for here mehn, just go and start selling Boli and roasted corn after you graduate. Although, I've gotten 3 jobs within the time I finished my NYSC till date and my current workplace is well known and pays an amount nearly worthy of a graduate but let's be honest, that's not usually the case of most Nigerians.
Let me take you all a little into Psychology and Sociology. Some scientists believe that it's our biological factors that shapes who we are as Individuals. Other scientists believe it is the external environment that determines our behaviour.
Based on my perspective, I think both external factors define our thought process and actions more than genetic. Yeah, some behaviours can be passed on genetically, but I believe our environment determine a lotta things about us.
Let's take Nigeria for example. I can bet that Nigerians who grew up and were raised in this country are more likely to have trust issues than a Nigerian who grew up in the Suburbs abroad.
Now don't get me wrong. I'm not saying an average American can not have trust issues as well, but the number of Nigerians with trust issues are more likely to be on the higher side than foreigners due to the rate of crime and lawlessness in the country.
Let's look at the End Sars for example. I ain't tryna get into trouble, but we all know how the story went and till date nobody has owned up to take responsibility for the loss of lives last year. A country where the Government ought to be for the people, of people and by the people has become for just a few categories of people and that's just scary.
What made me even get to this point. 2 days ago. My younger sister was robbed at gunpoint in broad daylight. Apparently, she entered a wrong bus and to be honest everyone was just glad she wasn't raped, harmed or killed. Now she has phobia for buses.
Her case reminded me of a particular incident I faced earlier this year. All my account was wiped clean in my presence. All my savings left from Nysc, mehn, I wan cry. It was quite a lotta of money, cuz I landed from Abj to Lagos, as a big girl. I don't know how it happened, all I know is that I only started thinking clearly as soon as I was dumped somewhere. Now I have phobia for Cabs. What triggered my phobia for Cabs, was it biological factors or my external environment, it was definitely a past event.
Let me take you all a little into Psychology and Sociology. Some scientists believe that it's our biological factors that shapes who we are as Individuals. Other scientists believe it is the external environment that determines our behaviour.
Based on my perspective, I think both external factors define our thought process and actions more than genetic. Yeah, some behaviours can be passed on genetically, but I believe our environment determine a lotta things about us.
Let's take Nigeria for example. I can bet that Nigerians who grew up and were raised in this country are more likely to have trust issues than a Nigerian who grew up in the Suburbs abroad.
Now don't get me wrong. I'm not saying an average American can not have trust issues as well, but the number of Nigerians with trust issues are more likely to be on the higher side than foreigners due to the rate of crime and lawlessness in the country.
Let's look at the End Sars for example. I ain't tryna get into trouble, but we all know how the story went and till date nobody has owned up to take responsibility for the loss of lives last year. A country where the Government ought to be for the people, of people and by the people has become for just a few categories of people and that's just scary.
What made me even get to this point. 2 days ago. My younger sister was robbed at gunpoint in broad daylight. Apparently, she entered a wrong bus and to be honest everyone was just glad she wasn't raped, harmed or killed. Now she has phobia for buses.
Her case reminded me of a particular incident I faced earlier this year. All my account was wiped clean in my presence. All my savings left from Nysc, mehn, I wan cry. It was quite a lotta of money, cuz I landed from Abj to Lagos, as a big girl. I don't know how it happened, all I know is that I only started thinking clearly as soon as I was dumped somewhere. Now I have phobia for Cabs. What triggered my phobia for Cabs, was it biological factors or my external environment, it was definitely a past event.
So I feel when people overthink or get nervous, or are short fused or violent, yes it's possible their parents were like that as well, but it was an event that triggered that behaviour flaw in that person.
When you think about the fact that you were born in this amazing country , coupled with the unending economic and political insecurity, and your Angel actually definitely deliberately dropped you here, it's enough to trigger depression.
When you think about the fact that you were born in this amazing country , coupled with the unending economic and political insecurity, and your Angel actually definitely deliberately dropped you here, it's enough to trigger depression.
One day you'll just start thinking 'is this what my kids will face as well? Mad! Mad!' I mean if I ever leave this country, probably to further my education or something or just maybe spend a vacation or clear my head or receive fresh air or whatever, no matter how little the time spent overseas is, I do hope I return a better person and something positive has changed the narrative of the country so that my generation can enjoy what I didn’t get to enjoy at least.
What a crazy country. So I was going home yesterday from work and closed pretty late. As I entered the bus, I just started panicking. My heart was beating so fast, I could hardly breathe.
I looked around and saw only men around. This didn't make me any calmer. To worsen the issue, the last man that entered jammed the door. I zipped my back and held it so tight. I started wondering, 'is this where I'm going to bring my future kids into?' I alighted safely but that feeling of insecurity will always be there.
It's not like there aren't crimes abroad. But there are systems put in place to ensure crime is curbed and minimized. There are CCTV cameras in streets that makes criminals feel they are being watched. Most employees working under the Government are motivated to want to protect their citizens. Being an FBI is not just a means to survive. It gives them joy. They feel like heroes.
It's so sad that in this country, if you report a missing child, you will still have to 'settle' the police if you want your file to get anywhere. If you don't have money or connection, forgerrit.
I remember when my phone was stolen. I was gonna report it to the police, but after hearing the process involved and the fact that I still have to pay to file the report. I just lost the zeal and accepted my fate cuz I needed to save up for a new phone.
Even if you own a car, be rest assured you are not totally safe. A car owner is more likely to be appealing for robbery than a passerby. Infact, the more luxurious you look, the more appealing you look to robbers.
I've said a lot today, and maybe just maybe one day, Nigeria will rise again, but obviously not today. And when that time comes, I hope we will all be alive to witness it. I pray we all get to achieve all our dreams one day. Till I come again, I remain your humble blogger. Lol. Nah. Scratch that. Lol. You’re Proud blogger . Kiss Kiss. Love y'all. Love and light. Peace Out!
I looked around and saw only men around. This didn't make me any calmer. To worsen the issue, the last man that entered jammed the door. I zipped my back and held it so tight. I started wondering, 'is this where I'm going to bring my future kids into?' I alighted safely but that feeling of insecurity will always be there.
It's not like there aren't crimes abroad. But there are systems put in place to ensure crime is curbed and minimized. There are CCTV cameras in streets that makes criminals feel they are being watched. Most employees working under the Government are motivated to want to protect their citizens. Being an FBI is not just a means to survive. It gives them joy. They feel like heroes.
It's so sad that in this country, if you report a missing child, you will still have to 'settle' the police if you want your file to get anywhere. If you don't have money or connection, forgerrit.
I remember when my phone was stolen. I was gonna report it to the police, but after hearing the process involved and the fact that I still have to pay to file the report. I just lost the zeal and accepted my fate cuz I needed to save up for a new phone.
Even if you own a car, be rest assured you are not totally safe. A car owner is more likely to be appealing for robbery than a passerby. Infact, the more luxurious you look, the more appealing you look to robbers.
I've said a lot today, and maybe just maybe one day, Nigeria will rise again, but obviously not today. And when that time comes, I hope we will all be alive to witness it. I pray we all get to achieve all our dreams one day. Till I come again, I remain your humble blogger. Lol. Nah. Scratch that. Lol. You’re Proud blogger . Kiss Kiss. Love y'all. Love and light. Peace Out!
